Need advise on how to tolerate my abusive mom!?

I'd like so much to agree with the above answerers but let me digress a little. You have not said anything about your own behavior as her daughter. Have you been a loving daughter all those time, showering her with the respect and love that all mothers deserve, them bringing us into this world and all? Hope you have been, because if you deserve some of her treatment, I would suggest you start to change now. Maybe that is all that she is waiting for to change also. You know, most mothers are like that. They demand respect first, w/c should not be the case, but wth, they are our mothers. Good or bad, we owe them our life. About the car she loaned and paying for you, why my dear, I would of thought, you should at least be thankful. At least she thought of doing that, don't you think so? And about the business, don't you consider the possibility that it would be yours when the right time comes? Ever thought of it? Ok, I'm offered a different perspective and I might be wrong, but there's one thing I knowI am right about, mothers deserve our love no matter what. Maybe it's time you've shown her that.