Why am I the center target for everything bad in my family?

Ok First off I am 17 years old, I understand that I am still a child and I have to respect my parents, I am also religious and I believe in the verse that says to respect your parents and honor them, But on the same token there is a verse 2 or 3 lines under saying, And thy parents shall not provoke thy spring, So I try my hardest to respect them but they always almost seem to step all over me. My and my father have gotten into a fist fight before and that resulted in a family counselor coming and then at first I thought she would be on my side, but my parents made me seem like the bad one (hey that's great I'm the one calling for help and I get screwed from both ends). So im not going to call another counselor because my parents always put themselves out to be the victims. My mom I believe is going through menopause and is having many mood swings and fights with me constantly and my father doesn't want to get on her bad side so he just agrees with her and fights me also, So its like I have two parents going through menopause. So to avoid problems I spend time with my girlfriend And I have gotten very close to her family, We act as if we are all family and we all have a great time, I feel like I have my own family with them. So when I return home my parents see me all joyful and happy and then boom they fight with me again, So then they start yelling at me because I hang out with them too much BUT if I stay at home I get in trouble and no one wants me there anyways, so when I leave I become happy and I get in trouble for that also so please guys what can I do?